Have you as a Christian lady or even a Guy ever gotten into a relationship out of sheer pressure with no sort of conviction or peace 🚫🤷?
Well if you have news is you're not alone because I have had an experience of same sort when I was still single so permit me share my story...
That was my penultimate year in the university and I recently met a fellow brother who attended the same fellowship with me in school at the time.
As you can also rightly guess, this guy ticked all the boxes of every young girl's fantansies of an ideal man or boyfriend. From good looks to deep pockets (so I heard from people as his reputation and family background) and to crown it all he was a regular in church; meaning he was perfect and The Lord was definitely involved in this right 😂😂😂.
To make matters worse, all my 'close friends' thought he was my "Mr. Right" and so in as much as I knew deep down within me that this wasn't even to be considered how much more getting involved in, I disobeyed my Spirit and God's voice, listened to the noice of the world and considered mundane physical attributes and said yes to a man I knew I had no business letting into my personal space let alone my life; all for what reason.... PEER PRESSURE!!!
And what was the result? The very moment I said 'Yes'. I instantly felt that something deep and unseen left me and I knew without any shadow of doubt that the Holy Spirit had left me and He took His Peace along with Him as He left.
Brethren I lost my peace in such an uncommon chaotic manner that I could hardly even mention the name of Jesus. To me at that point it felt like I was unclean, and unworthy to even mention His name and that if I did it sound nothing short of blasphemy to my ears.
But Thank God for His Mercies (to whom God will have mercy, He will have mercy and to whom He will have compassion, He will have compassion), and as God would have it; a few days still within that same week our fellowship organized a vigil prayer program (that should be like on Friday or something) and of course I and my new found love attended. (Of course I was obviously pretending that all was well with my spiritual and prayer life).
And right in the middle of the intense worship session, the brother who led the fellowship at the time walked up to me where I stood and whispered into my ears saying that the Lord had told him to ask me why I decided to disobey Him and enter into FOOLISH NONSENSE 😭😭.
I can never forget His exact words. The Holy Spirit was clearly angry and stern with me that day. I have come too far with the Lord to provoke Him this much 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 and I knew that I had to fix it immediately or else....
Immediately he said those words into my ears he turned and walked away and never spoke to me about it till this very day.
I nearly fainted because I couldn't even feign ignorance of what he was talking about. I was instantly broken in the spirit and I began to cry shamelessly asking God for mercy.
As soon as the dismissal Grace was shared, without wasting another second, I quickly picked up my phone and sent an it's over between us text to that guy in question without bothering to offer him any reason. All attempts by him to call me back or see me afterwards met with very stiff and rude replies and reactions because I knew this was a battle for my destiny and I wasn't about to play sentimental with it. He knew that I meant it seriously.
That was obviously the shortest and most meaningless relationship I had ever gotten into. All because I refused to first run a man's proposal through the Holy Spirit first for approval and I listened to the noises of men and their pressure as against the voice of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit.
I almost made the costliest mistake of life that would have without mincing words led me to some sort of regret or the other (God forbid) had the Lord not scolded me back to correction on time.
Now that I think over it, I've come to realize that it was the Lord lovingly playing His fatherly role over me by warning and protecting me from impending danger at all cost even when it was I who foolishly decided to defy good sense by first consulting Him before walking down a Wong path that looked shiny to me.
It also made me to come to a place of gratitude to Jesus who has never left me alone since the day I give my life to Christ. And also to thank Him for giving me a heart of flesh and not stone to listen to Him and take collection when He came to correct and redeem me from my foolishness.
If you have read till this point and you have a similar experience to share please do so in the comments section so that others can be blessed especially our single brothers and sisters.
Thank you and God bless you.
