“From Misunderstanding to Harmony: How Christian Couples Can Communicate Effectively”

So on Wednesday 1st of October, 2025 my husband and I celebrated our 9th Year Marriage Anniversary and here's one major lesson I've learned so far in my years of marriage so far: 

The Secret Language of Love: Communication Tips for Christian Married Couples"

Discover practical and biblical communication tips for Christian couples. Laugh, connect, and strengthen your marriage with God’s wisdom and humor.”

Picture this:

A Christian husband and wife are in the middle of what we call a “heated fellowship.” He thinks she meant this, she swears she said that. Meanwhile, the neighbor’s dog is outside barking as if to say, “Can somebody please communicate properly in this house?”

Sound familiar? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Communication in marriage is like WiFi. When it’s strong, everything flows smoothly. But when the connection is weak? My dear, even the simplest “How are you?” can turn into a full-blown misunderstanding worthy of its own prayer vigil.

But here’s the good news: as Christian couples, God has given us the ultimate manual on communication—His Word. And today, let’s laugh, learn, and lean on some biblical truths about talking (and listening!) to each other in marriage.

Why Communication Is the Glue of Christian Marriage.

The Single Woman’s Personal "Sabbath" : How to Rest, Reflect, and Rebuild Before Marriage.

What Does Sabbath Really Mean for the Single Christian Woman?

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‎The "Sabbath rest for singles" is an intentional pause—a sacred rhythm to realign with God's voice. It’s a time for "Christian woman reflection" and renewal.

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‎How Resting Intentionally Prepares You for Marriage

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‎You can’t pour into someone else when you’re running on empty. Rest teaches:

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‎* Emotional regulation

‎* Listening to God

‎* Cultivating inner peace

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‎Spiritual Disciplines to Practice During Your Waiting Season.

Faith, Finances & the Future: Building a God-Honoring Lifestyle While Waiting for Love.

Why Financial Wisdom Is a Form of Spiritual Preparation

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‎Financial maturity is vital for preparing for Godly marriage. As a single woman, the way you steward your income reflects your trust in God. Christian financial stewardship involves tithing, saving, budgeting, and planning without fear.

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‎Saving and Spending with Purpose as a Single Woman

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‎Your money habits now will follow you into marriage. Start by:

Reasons Why You Shouldn't Watch Porn as a Christian and Godly Couple

You can’t claim to be be a Christian couple, and watching po*n to learn sex. No. You can’t learn sex in its holy sanctity as intended by the God you claim to live and serve from depraved demonic expressions. You can’t learn to please God from the devil. Porn is demonic; full stop! 

It is the one of the worst perversion of sex. You’re destroying yourself and your marriage, and that’s unfaithfulness in every possible and impossible way of the highest order. Both to God and your partner.

Often times, we attribute unfaithfulness to one partner cheating on the other. However, watching porn together as a couple or engaging in sexual acts that include a third party, is unfaithfulness to God, because a godly marriage consist of three people: you, your partner and God. 

More like fighting a Godly battle with the devil's strategy or armour.

So in all you do, you must be faithful to Jesus. Because I'm aware of the conversation around porn helping people with their sexual lives, but again I ask, how do you learn how to be clean from a dirty pig?

So how can you a Christian, is watching two or more satanic agents of end time mass destruction committing fornication in such an unrealistic, shameless and distorted way, to learn sex in all its sacredness for implementation in your marriage? This is highly morally inconsistent according to biblical precepts. You can’t save your marriage with the soiled hands of sin.

From Being "Intentionally Spiritually Single" to Becoming " Intentionally Spiritually Prepared": How to Align Your Life with God’s Plan for Marriage.

 

Why Singleness Is a Season of Purpose

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‎Your single season is a gift, not a curse. It’s the time to serve God without distraction and define your personal mission and values.

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‎Creating a Life That Reflects Readiness for Marriage

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‎Ask yourself: "Would I want to marry me?" Become the kind of spouse you’re praying for.

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‎* Develop life skills (cooking, budgeting, time management)

‎* Heal from past emotional baggage

‎* Serve in ministry or community

Becoming Whole Before ‘The One’ Comes Along: Sustainable Living for the Christian Single Woman.

 

What It Means to Live Sustainably as a Christian Woman While Preparing Intentionally For Marriage...

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‎Living sustainably isn't just about eco-friendly habits. For the *Christian single woman lifestyle, it means aligning every area of your life—physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial—with God’s design and purpose. It means stewarding your time, energy, and resources in ways that glorify Him.

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‎The Importance of Emotional and Spiritual Wholeness Before Marriage

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‎Becoming whole before marriage* is foundational. You weren’t created to be "half" waiting for another half. God wants you to be a whole person before entering a covenant. This wholeness involves healing from past wounds, forgiving others and yourself, and finding your identity solely in Christ.

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‎Eco-Friendly Habits that Reflect Inner Stewardship

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A LADY WHO WANTS JUST YOUR MONEY AND NOT COMMITMENT WILL DO THESE:

 

Warning signs of a lady who wants only your money, not commitment:

_Verbal Cues:_

1. Constantly talks about financial security

2. Asks about your income or wealth

3. Expects expensive gifts or outings

4. Uses phrases like "treat me right"

5. Discusses financial benefits of relationship

_Action Cues:_

1. Only initiates contact when needing financial help

2. Spends lavishly, expecting you to pay

3. Doesn't contribute financially

4. Uses guilt or emotional manipulation

5. Prioritizes material possessions

_Emotional Cues:_

1. Lack of emotional vulnerability

2. Doesn't show interest in your feelings

3. Prioritizes financial gain over connection

4. Displays possessiveness or control

5. Emotional unavailability

_Behavioral Patterns:_

1. Has history of financially dependent relationships

2. Uses social media to showcase luxury lifestyle

3. Constantly seeks upgrades or expensive items

4. Avoids discussing long-term plans

5. Flirts with others for financial gain

_Red Flags:_

1. Asks for money or financial favors early on

2. Has outstanding debts or financial troubles

3. Uses manipulative or coercive tactics

4. Disappears when financial support stops

5. Multiple concurrent relationships for financial gain

_Biblical Perspective:_

1. "Love of money is a root of evil." (1 Timothy 6:10)

2. "Do not be yoked with unbelievers." (2 Corinthians 6:14)

3. "Seek first the kingdom of God." (Matthew 6:33)

4. "Godliness with contentment is great gain." (1 Timothy 6:6)

5. "Wise financial stewardship." (Proverbs 22:7)

_Protect Yourself:_

1. Set clear financial boundaries

2. Prioritize emotional connection

3. Evaluate her values and priorities

4. Watch for inconsistencies

5. Seek counsel from trusted friends or mentors

_Remember:_

1. Your worth isn't defined by financial wealth.

2. Emotional connection matters.

3. Mutual respect is essential.

4. God's plan prioritizes love and commitment.

5. Prioritize your emotional and spiritual well-being.

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POV: "FOOLISH NONSENSE": A STORY OF THE SHORTEST RELATIONSHIP I HAD EVER BEEN IN AND HOW THE HOLY SPIRIT QUICKLY STEPPED IN 🙏. A STORY OF HOW DANGEROUSLY THE SHINY THING SYNDROME HAS SO MUCH BEDEVILED THE YOUTHS OF OUR GENERATION .

 

Have you as a Christian lady or even a Guy ever gotten into a relationship out of sheer pressure with no sort of conviction or peace 🚫🤷? 

Well if you have news is you're not alone because I have had an experience of same sort when I was still single so permit me share my story... 

That was my penultimate year in the university and I recently met a fellow brother who attended the same fellowship with me in school at the time. 

As you can also rightly guess, this guy ticked all the boxes of every young girl's fantansies of an ideal man or boyfriend. From good looks to deep pockets (so I heard from people as his reputation and family background) and to crown it all he was a regular in church; meaning he was perfect and The Lord was definitely involved in this right 😂😂😂.

To make matters worse, all my 'close friends' thought he was my "Mr. Right" and so in as much as I knew deep down within me that this wasn't even to be considered how much more getting involved in, I disobeyed my Spirit and God's voice, listened to the noice of the world and considered mundane physical attributes and said yes to a man I knew I had no business letting into my personal space let alone my life; all for what reason.... PEER PRESSURE!!! 

And what was the result? The very moment I said 'Yes'. I instantly felt that something deep and unseen left me and I knew without any shadow of doubt that the Holy Spirit had left me and He took His Peace along with Him as He left.

Brethren I lost my peace in such an uncommon chaotic manner that I could hardly even mention the name of Jesus. To me at that point it felt like I was unclean, and unworthy to even mention His name and that if I did it sound nothing short of blasphemy to my ears.

But Thank God for His Mercies (to whom God will have mercy, He will have mercy and to whom He will have compassion, He will have compassion), and as God would have it; a few days still within that same week our fellowship organized a vigil prayer program (that should be like on Friday or something) and of course I and my new found love attended. (Of course I was obviously pretending that all was well with my spiritual and prayer life).

And right in the middle of the intense worship session, the brother who led the fellowship at the time walked up to me where I stood and whispered into my ears saying that the Lord had told him to ask me why I decided to disobey Him and enter into FOOLISH NONSENSE 😭😭. 

I can never forget His exact words. The Holy Spirit was clearly angry and stern with me that day. I have come too far with the Lord to provoke Him this much 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 and I knew that I had to fix it immediately or else....

Immediately he said those words into my ears he turned and walked away and never spoke to me about it till this very day.

I nearly fainted because I couldn't even feign ignorance of what he was talking about. I was instantly broken in the spirit and I began to cry shamelessly asking God for mercy. 

As soon as the dismissal Grace was shared, without wasting another second, I quickly picked up my phone and sent an it's over between us text to that guy in question without bothering to offer him any reason. All attempts by him to call me back or see me afterwards met with very stiff and rude replies and reactions because I knew this was a battle for my destiny and I wasn't about to play sentimental with it. He knew that I meant it seriously. 

That was obviously the shortest and most meaningless relationship I had ever gotten into. All because I refused to first run a man's proposal through the Holy Spirit first for approval and I listened to the noises of men and their pressure as against the voice of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. 

I almost made the costliest mistake of life that would have without mincing words led me to some sort of regret or the other (God forbid) had the Lord not scolded me back to correction on time. 

Now that I think over it, I've come to realize that it was the Lord lovingly playing His fatherly role over me by warning and protecting me from impending danger at all cost even when it was I who foolishly decided to defy good sense by first consulting Him before walking down a Wong path that looked shiny to me. 

It also made me to come to a place of gratitude to Jesus who has never left me alone since the day I give my life to Christ. And also to thank Him for giving me a heart of flesh and not stone to listen to Him and take collection when He came to correct and redeem me from my foolishness. 

If you have read till this point and you have a similar experience to share please do so in the comments section so that others can be blessed especially our single brothers and sisters. 

Thank you and God bless you.