🚩 7 Dangerous, Hard-to-Miss Signs of an Immature Man in a Relationship

Not every grown man is emotionally grown into maturity.

Age does not equal maturity.

Money does not equal maturity.

Even church attendance does not automatically equal maturity.

An immature man in a relationship can slowly drain your peace, distort your self-worth, and delay your destiny — especially if you ignore the signs early.

Here are "7 dangerous, hard-to-miss signs" you should never overlook:

1️⃣ He Avoids Responsibility

An immature man:

* Blames his ex for everything.

* Blames his parents for everything.

* Blames his boss, the government, the economy — everyone.

* Rarely says, “I was wrong.”

Mature men take ownership. Immature men manufacture excuses.

If he cannot take responsibility for small things, he will never take responsibility for hurting you.

🚩 'Excuses are the language of immaturity.'

2️⃣ He Cannot Handle Correction or Accountability

The moment you:

* Express discomfort

* Ask questions

* Address a concern

* Suggest growth

He becomes:

* Defensive

* Angry

* Silent

* Dismissive

An immature man sees correction as disrespect.

But growth requires humility. Even the Bible teaches that wisdom accepts correction (Proverbs 12:1).

If he cannot be corrected now, marriage will feel like walking on eggshells.

3️⃣ He Lacks Emotional Regulation

Watch how he reacts when:

* He’s stressed

* He doesn’t get his way

* He feels insecure

* You disagree with him

Does he:

* Shout?

* Withdraw?

* Manipulate?

* Threaten to leave?

* Give the silent treatment?

An emotionally immature man is ruled by his feelings.

A mature man manages his feelings.

Marriage multiplies pressure. If he cannot regulate himself in dating, it only gets worse.

4️⃣ He Is Financially Irresponsible (Without Effort to Improve)

It’s not about how much he earns.

It’s about how he manages what he has.

Red flags include:

* Impulsive spending

* Constant debt with no repayment plan

* Living above his means to impress others

* No savings mindset

* No long-term planning

A man preparing for marriage thinks ahead.

Immaturity lives for today.

Maturity prepares for tomorrow.

5️⃣ He Is Addicted to Ego Validation

He constantly needs:

* Female attention

* Public praise

* Social media admiration

* To “win” every argument

He struggles to:

* Apologize

* Admit weakness

* Share the spotlight

* Celebrate your success without competition

Immature men compete with their partners.

Mature men build with their partners.

If he feels threatened by your growth, he is not ready to lead a family.

 6️⃣ He Avoids Difficult Conversations

Instead of resolving conflict, he:

* Changes the topic

* Disappears

* Says “you’re overreacting”

* Says “let’s not talk about it”

* Minimizes serious concerns

Peace is not the absence of discussion.

An immature man wants comfort without confrontation.

A mature man understands that hard conversations build strong foundations.

If he avoids serious talks about values, finances, vision, boundaries, or marriage — that’s not calmness. That’s avoidance.

7️⃣ His Words and Actions Don’t Align

He says:

“I love you.”

“I want to marry you.”

“You’re my future.”

But:

* There is no clarity.

* No timeline.

* No intentional steps.

* No consistency.

Immature men speak in emotions.

Mature men act with intention.

Consistency is maturity in action.

⚠️⚠️⚠️ Why This Is Dangerous

The danger of immaturity is not loud at first.

It often looks like:

* “He will change.”

* “He’s just stressed.”

* “He didn’t mean it.”

* “At least he loves me.”

But marriage does not fix immaturity.

Marriage exposes and amplifies it.

An immature man in marriage can become:

* Controlling

* Passive

* Financially reckless

* Emotionally unavailable

* Spiritually stagnant

And you cannot mother a man into maturity.

💡 Final Wisdom

Before you pray for marriage, pray for discernment.

Before you say “I do,” ask:

* Does he take responsibility?

* Does he grow from correction?

* Does he regulate his emotions?

* Does he live intentionally?

Chemistry is powerful.

Character is foundational.

A mature man is not perfect.

But he is accountable, teachable, emotionally stable, and growth-oriented.

And that difference can determine the peace of your entire future 💛💛

Behaviours My Igbo Sisters should stop tolerating from their husbands

 

My dear African (Igbo) women in particular.

Stop accepting disrespectful behaviours from your Igbo men. These men understand what it takes to be a man when dealing with a white women. 

I lived over 20 good years in Africa and 9 years in Europe and can categorically tell you that;

An African man knows how to come home after work when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows not to yell when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to vacuum the house when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to cook when dealing with a white woman. 

An African man knows that he shouldn’t ch£@t when dealing with a white woman. They forget polygamy 😆 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to take the children and dogs for a walk when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to buy flowers 💐 and make a date reservation when dealing with a white woman. 

An African man doesn't forget important events like birthday, graduation, children's needs when dealing with a white woman.

An African (Igbo) man is smart enough to differentiate between bare minimum and princess treatment when dealing with a white woman. 

Their n@rcissistic tendencies only germinate when dealing with you. That's why they think "they are the price"

They truly understand partnership when dealing with a white woman. 

The king's mentality or grandiose self only heightened when dealing with you.

It could be that your worth as a woman wasn't pronounced to you as a young woman, but I'm here to let you know that you are worth more than the bare minimum. 

You're valuable, you're priceless, you're unique and deserve a love and partnership with someone who sees your values from day one. 

You deserve a man who uplifts you. Not someone who sees you as below him. You deserve someone who supports you in building a family. You deserve someone willing to love you as loud as you deserve. 

That African man isn't dųmb, he just selects who to be lovely to. Stop accepting the bare minimum. 

You deserve a real partnership and not slav£ry. If he has to depl£te you, he's not loving you. If he has to dr@in you, he's not loving you. 

If he has to watch you cook, clean, sxxx, and feed the children while he plays video games, he's not loving you.

Love doesn't drain, it nourishes, uplifts, and takes you closer to God.

You deserve love, the kind of love, Christ has for the church. Ephesians 5:25

✍️ ©️ Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks 

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TEN (10) VERY POPULAR COMPLIMENTS THAT SHOULDN'T SIT WELL WITH YOU AS A WOMAN.

As a woman, here are some of the insults you accept as compliments.

True compliments recognizes you as a full human being, capable, thoughtful, intelligent, and self-aware, without reducing your value to how well you fit into some marriage role!

1. You're Beauty with brains.

Never allow a man say this statement to you without countering it or rejecting it

This statement is born out of the twisted assumption that women can not be both beautiful and brainy. And so a woman who’s both beautiful and brainy is an exception. 

No woman should be termed ugly. Every women is beautiful, so using beauty with brains is an insult to all women!

Don’t accept this!

2. “Na man you be”.

This is an insult to women’s strength, resilience and tenacity. This is a back-handed compliment geared at undermining the value of a woman and equates a woman’s strength and achievements to just men.

It implies that strength, leadership, intelligence, or resilience belong to men, and that a woman displaying these traits has stepped out of her “natural” role. It shouldn’t be accepted because a woman does not need to be compared to a man to be worthy.

Strength is not male. Courage is not male. Competence is not male.

Women! You’re enough being a woman.

3 You think like a man.

They say this to praise logic, strategy, or emotional control and It suggests women are naturally irrational, emotional, or incapable of deep thinking, and that good thinking is male territory.

Women don’t “think like men.” Women think like women, and thinking well is a human trait, not a gendered one. Men don’t think better because they have a penis. As a matter of fact, some of them use their penis to think sef.

4. “You are not like other women”

‎10 RULES That’ll Make Your Marriage Stronger.

‎Calm down and read till the end👇. You'd come back to thank me later.

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‎Let me be honest with you — marriage is beautiful and a huge blessing if done properly, but it is not easy. It doesn’t magically run itself; successful marriages weren't achieved on autopilot system.

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‎It grows when the two people involved are intentional partners. It thrives when both the husband and wife are willing to show up, even on the days when it feels inconvenient. One always willing to carry the other when he or she is down as they both journey together.

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‎Here are ten things that genuinely make a marriage stronger, from my heart to yours:

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‎1️⃣ Communication is Beyond Just Words.

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‎It’s not just about talking — it’s about understanding the person you chose.

‎It’s learning to hear them even on their quiet days.

‎It’s choosing clarity over assumptions.

‎The more both of you learn to express your needs without ego, the smoother the love flows.

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‎2️⃣ Giving Each Other a Safe Space and a Safe Haven.

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‎A healthy marriage should feel like home, not a battlefield.

‎When your partner can be honest, vulnerable, imperfect — without fear — trust grows on its own.

‎Emotional safety is the backbone of intimacy. Without it, everything else struggles.

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‎3️⃣ Choosing Collaborative Partnership Over Competition

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‎You’re on the same team, not opponents trying to score points.

‎Marriage works best when you support each other instead of trying to “win” arguments.

‎Two people who build together will always thrive together.

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‎4️⃣ Honouring Each Other's Boundaries.

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‎Strong marriages don’t suffocate.

‎They respect personal space, individuality, and emotional limits.

‎Boundaries aren’t barriers — they’re guides.

‎And they keep the love healthy, balanced, and respectful. You don't intentionally push each other's buttons and even when you mistakenly do so, you are quick to sincerely apologize and make amends.

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‎5️⃣ Keep Your Friendship as a Couple Alive.

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‎At the end of the day, beyond romance and responsibilities, you’re companions.

‎Laugh together, play together, gist, explore, stay curious about each other.

‎Friendship is what keeps the connection alive when life gets serious.

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‎6️⃣ How to Love Your Partner the Way They Understand It and Want To Be Loved.

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‎One thing I’ve realized is this: it’s not enough to love someone your own way. People feel love differently—some need words, some need time, some need support, some need touch.

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‎Marriage becomes easier when both partners stop assuming and start paying attention.

‎Speak the language that enters their heart, not the one that’s convenient for you.

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‎7️⃣ Mutual Respect Always Beats Romance.

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‎Romance is sweet, but respect is the real deal ... The Core Foundation. It shows in how you speak, how you listen, how you disagree, and how you prioritize each other.

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‎When respect is present, even arguments are healthier.When it’s absent, everything else becomes heavy.

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‎Let respect lead—the marriage will follow.

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‎8️⃣ The Power of Choosing Each Other Daily.

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‎Marriage isn’t a one-day (wedding day) vow. It’s a daily “YES I DO.”

‎Some days it’s natural, other days you choose intentionally.

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‎But showing up again and again — to listen, support, forgive, and grow — that’s what keeps the bond solid.Consistency will always be louder than intensity.

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‎9️⃣ Build Emotional Intimacy Beyond Only Physical Touch.

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‎Physical intimacy is beautiful and even very important, but emotional intimacy is the glue. It’s the late-night conversations, the little check-ins, the laughter, the honesty.

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‎When emotional intimacy is strong, everything else flows with ease.You don’t just love each other — you understand each other.

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‎🔟 Learn How to Handle Conflict Without Breaking Each Other. Remember when life gets really difficult, your only sure bet to victory is by going on your knees and asking God for mercy.

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‎Conflict is part of marriage, but destruction doesn’t have to be.

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‎Healthy conflict looks like breathing before reacting, choosing your words, addressing the issue instead of attacking the person, and remembering you’re fighting for the marriage, not against each other.

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‎Peace is learned — it doesn’t just happen. Learn it by daily practice.

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‎©️ Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️

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‎TYPES OF "SHIPS" IN TODAY'S MODERN DAY RELATIONSHIPS. ‎

‎Are you in a Relationship?
‎Read this and Know where you belong.
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‎1) SOLE-PROPRIETORship
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‎ This one is what I call "na only you waka come" relationship
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‎The love sustaining this relationship is usually one sided
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‎You are the Lover and the Lovee
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‎You beg them to call you,
‎You beg them to tell you they love you.
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‎You offend them, you beg, they offend you, you beg.
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‎You beg for their attention.
‎You beg for their affection,
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‎They treat you as an option but you don't mind
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‎This Relationship is like a ticking time bomb, it never lasts and always ends in heart break to be felt by only one party.
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‎2) SITUATIONship.
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‎This is a Relationship that resembles a prison sentence with hard labor,
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‎It is a Relationship where you keep asking yourself if you are dating an onion or you are engaged to a relative of Adolf Hitler.
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‎One week, One trouble.
‎All your friends have settled quarrels between the both of you to the point no body takes you guys serious anymore.
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‎Every Relationship has ups and downs, but a Situationship has downs and ups.
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‎This type of Relationship attracts Pity (not envy) from People, you keep hearing "you People should take it easy oh" "have you prayed well?" "are you sure?"
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‎This Relationship usually translates into an abusive relationship.
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‎3) FORNICATIONship
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‎Remove sex and monetary compensation from this Relationship, and you'd discover nothing else is holding it.
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‎It's all about her Body and his Money.
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‎The young Lady gives her body,
‎The young Man buys her weave-on or clothing items in return.
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‎Majority of Relationships fall here.
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‎But a true Christian, a true Son/Daughter of God will never operate this type of Relationship because God detests fornication
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‎ Items that aid this relationship to continue from year to year without any major problems  include Postinor 2, Ampiclox Beecham, Schweppes, and then ABORTION comes to the rescue when the previous items malfunction.
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‎Las Las, when the young Man is tired and sees a better looking lady or the lady sees someone who can spend more the fornicationship will end.
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‎Sometimes though it ends in Marriage, but such Marriages have faulty foundations already.
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‎4) CONFUSIONship
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‎Any Relationship where this questions keep coming up;
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‎"what are we?"
‎ "what are we doing?"
‎"where are we going?",
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‎Let me help you answer the questions.
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‎The both of you people are pencils in the hand of the Creator, the both of you people are pounding yam, and the both of you people are going to no-where...
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People who call themselves ‎matured Adults in a Relationship with no defined identity, no defined destination, just "let us see how it goes" are nothing but confused adults.
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‎When People ask you your relationship status you reply "it is complicated" or "we are just taking things slowly" 🤣🤣🤣
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‎He or she calls you "sweetheart" when you are alone and introduces you as "my friend" when you are in Public, another word for this type of confusionship is what I call "Undercover relationship" .
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‎5) REALationship
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‎This is the REAL Deal, hence the name REALationship.
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‎There is a DESTINATION in mind, that is Marriage. 
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‎The MOTIVE is genuine Love, sincere Commitment, true Companionship and Intimacy.
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‎The Love is usually MUTUAL and reciprocated
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‎This type of Relationship involves three People, not two. The COUPLE and GOD.
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‎COMMUNICATION helps both parties to understand each other daily.
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‎This kind Relationship attracts envy, you'll keep hearing "you are lucky oh" "I wish I was in your shoes", and USUALLY ends up in BLISSFUL MARRIAGES
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‎You can not be in the wrong Ship and expect to get to the right Destination
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‎Have a rethink today.
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‎So ask yourself if you are truly in a Relationship, is It a REALationship?
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‎We will marry well in Jesus' name 🙏🏽
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A Very Short Story About My Life Now... 🥴😩😰

 

‎I’m in that phase of my life when I have to wake up by 5am and prepare my kids for school runs.

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‎As a lover of my sleep time I recall when I used to be the one being woken up. Breakfast would have been prepared, and we’d get to school before 7.50am, everyday. We were perpetual early comers and this is one trait that has lived with me.

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‎Hubby and I wake up every single day of the week by 5am or earlier to do school runs preparations. Joggling toddlers is no small play, especially those of us with three or more little children. While hubby bath and dresses the kids, I prepare their lunch and feed them/ supervise their breakfast for the one that are morning slow eaters😏.

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‎We get back in the evening to face yet another round of parent duty resumes. I can only breathe a sigh of relief when they go to bed by 8pm or slightly later.

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‎On most days after the children have gone to bed I am extremely exhausted and the only thing my body and my brain craves is my bed and a good night sleep 😔.

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‎The work if parenting is a lot. It’s exhausting sometimes. And this is me who works hand in hand with a man who’s is equally as hands-on as I am.

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TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NOT DATE OR EVEN GET MARRIED TO...

 

DO NOT DATE SOMEONE WHO IS AFRAID OF:

‎✔️The Job or Career Path that you do:

‎So you are a teacher, and he introduces you to his friends as a Nurse, my sister dump him oh..

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‎It will end in tears if you don't.

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‎She's ashamed of the fact that you are a Mechanic, dry cleaner, or you are a Uber driver and makes sure she's not seen at your work place or with you publicly by her friends. End such a Relationship . 

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‎✔️ The Background or Family you come from.

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‎So he or she's coming to visit you, and they're looking at your parents and your family house with disgust and constantly avoiding hugging your aged mother.

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‎She loves your money and current status but doesn't love where you came from.

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‎This type of woman will cut you off from your family after marriage by hook and by crook. 

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‎She is embarrassed to be seen around the area you live in, and so any time you want to see her , it has to b in an eatery. End it in this 2020.

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‎✔️Your Physical Looks (Especially if you have any sort of physical disability or Peculiar challenge).

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‎Don't date anybody who doesn't find you physically attractive and keeps on putting you down privately and publicly because of that. 

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‎One of the ways you know somebody who doesn't love you but has come to date you because of your job, money, fame, out of convenience, or someone who is just confused about what they want in life is the fact that they openly and secretly condemn your looks.

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‎You are too fat, was he blind before he asked you out?

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‎You are too short, what does he now want you to do? To commit suicide?

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‎You are too slim, of all the fat girls out there, why did he come to you? 

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‎Your breasts are too small, didn't he see a Mercy Johnson out there to date?

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‎Don't allow anybody give you high blood pressure just because they are dating you.

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‎Don't allow anybody nag you into ulcer and depression because of physical looks..

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‎True Love accepts You.

‎True Love celebrates You.

‎True Love doesn't cherry pick some aspects of your life that it's comfortable with and then want you to hide other aspects and pretend it's fine with you when it's not ..

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‎You too, if you won't be proud of someone's family/background, job, and looks, don't date them. Don't be wicked by becoming a waster of another human being's time and life 

‎Don't give what you won't take..

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HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR OWN MR. RIGHT AS A SINGLE LADY QUICKER AND FASTER...

 

HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR MR. RIGHT QUICKER AND FASTER...

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‎Some ladies think being friendly with guys will make them think they are cheap so they act aloof or tough to keep their "dignity" and "honour", you may never attract your soul mate that way.

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‎What makes a lady cheap is desperation-chasing a guy who has no single interest in you also makes you cheap, aside that baby, no where are you cheap for God's sake! Loosen up! But always make sure the guy makes the initial moves and chasing, Biko kwa🙏

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‎Being friendly with guys won't make you lose rapture, neither will your virginity disappear because you smile at godly brothers.

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‎Be friendly! Friendly ladies easily attract suitors. Learn to smile. Stop carrying the problem of your lineage on your head! Everyone has problems please, we all must learn to handle our challenges with maturity and grace!

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‎Stop treating guys like trash so they can see you as super high! Stop acting like you don't need a man, you need a man, that is why you are a woman and a man needs you. 

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‎You need a man sweetheart. Be humble, acknowledge it and make yourself approachable, likeable and lovable. If you don't need a man in your life, you won't be envying your friends and siblings who are getting married.

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‎That you made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you should now act cold to show true repentance, no! The Bible says, "A man that hath friends must himself be friendly". If you want men to troop towards you, be friendly!

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‎Caution needs to be taken though, lest your being friendly turns to something else. Set boundaries..

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‎Don't run after a guy that does not respond to or reciprocate your friendliness. Friendship is a two way thing. I call you, you call me. I respect you, you respect me. If you are the one doing all the calls, reaching out, etc, that friendship is sick and you need to re-define it.

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‎With God and adequate knowledge, a blissful marriage is surely guaranteed!

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‎You will not miss it!

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‎Amen 🙏🏾

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“From Misunderstanding to Harmony: How Christian Couples Can Communicate Effectively”

So on Wednesday 1st of October, 2025 my husband and I celebrated our 9th Year Marriage Anniversary and here's one major lesson I've learned so far in my years of marriage so far: 

The Secret Language of Love: Communication Tips for Christian Married Couples"

Discover practical and biblical communication tips for Christian couples. Laugh, connect, and strengthen your marriage with God’s wisdom and humor.”

Picture this:

A Christian husband and wife are in the middle of what we call a “heated fellowship.” He thinks she meant this, she swears she said that. Meanwhile, the neighbor’s dog is outside barking as if to say, “Can somebody please communicate properly in this house?”

Sound familiar? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Communication in marriage is like WiFi. When it’s strong, everything flows smoothly. But when the connection is weak? My dear, even the simplest “How are you?” can turn into a full-blown misunderstanding worthy of its own prayer vigil.

But here’s the good news: as Christian couples, God has given us the ultimate manual on communication—His Word. And today, let’s laugh, learn, and lean on some biblical truths about talking (and listening!) to each other in marriage.

Why Communication Is the Glue of Christian Marriage.

The Single Woman’s Personal "Sabbath" : How to Rest, Reflect, and Rebuild Before Marriage.

What Does Sabbath Really Mean for the Single Christian Woman?

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‎The "Sabbath rest for singles" is an intentional pause—a sacred rhythm to realign with God's voice. It’s a time for "Christian woman reflection" and renewal.

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‎How Resting Intentionally Prepares You for Marriage

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‎You can’t pour into someone else when you’re running on empty. Rest teaches:

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‎* Emotional regulation

‎* Listening to God

‎* Cultivating inner peace

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‎Spiritual Disciplines to Practice During Your Waiting Season.