A Proverbs 31 Wife

A wife is a woman lawfully and legally married to a man. Every wife is prima facie a woman but not every woman is a wife. The Holy Bible which is the everyday living manual for the Children of God on all aspects of life whether spiritual or physical (including marriage affairs) has spelt out detailed instructions on how marriage as a whole should work if it is to function properly and succeed, the roles and responsibilities of both the husband and wife and how a wife if she is to build up her home and bring favour as well as God's blessings on her husband and entire household must conduct herself.

According to the Bible which is the living word of God, a wife is the only person God calls a helper (or a helpmeet) to another individual (who must be her husband) after the Holy Spirit ( who Himself is God and the third person of the Holy Trinity).


As I read the story of a man written off as a failure and how the wife rejuvenated him and made him an astounding success, I can’t help but imagine what a good wife could do in the life of a man. The Bible, in one of its often quoted version, stated that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I've tried to imagine as a man, I have often wondered the kind of a favour that would come from finding a wife. I have discovered that a woman that would be a wife to your life does not come by merit but as a result of God’s grace and mercy.

You can actually succeed in business if you are very clever. You can make it to the top in academics if you are very intelligent. You can build many houses if you are very prudent in your endeavours. You can achieve a lot in life by personal efforts but not a wife. A wife only comes from the Lord. God has and enjoys the monopoly of giving a wife (a help meet) to any man. Money answers questions but cannot get you a wife, even though it can get you charlatans. The Holy book says that houses and riches are inheritance of fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

A wife helps a man up and does not add weight to him. A wife is not made to be a consumer or a parasite. She has capacity to lift her man up. Our society and culture have painted a woman as a weakling. A role of a woman in the life of a man has been misconceived. A help meet for him implies someone who shares from a burden; someone who alleviates and shoulders a burden. When God gives a wife to a man, He is trying to forestall a fall.

Women have been given tremendous power for good in their husbands’ lives. God has designed wives to help their husbands become all that God intends for them to be.