Dear Single Lady Are You Entertaining A Time Waster In The Name of a Long Term Relationship

 Dear Single ladies,

How long do you think is reasonable enough to wait for a relationship to move from one stage to another? That is to transit from courtship/dating to marriage 

I hope you know there is a difference between patience and time wasting🤷🏻? 

In my own opinion I'd say anything between 12 months to 24 months max is more than enough for you to know with certainty the directional compass of your existing relationship.

Notice I didn't use the term years but months because for most serious matured men wanting to settle down and build a home, even as little as one month or less is enough for them to know within them if they want to get married to you someday and it's usually evident in their subtle actions and words from day to day. 

The only problem is that most of us ladies are too carried away with the euphoria of love and being in a relationship with just anyone that we hardly pay attention to signs and details.

Time is of essence to any woman that desire to marry. Let nobody deceive you thereby wasting precious years of your life. 

This is not intended to make you jump into just any 'moving' wagon in your desperation to get to the desired destination called marriage only for you to begin to regret it later on; but rather this is to aid you in being deliberate about your time and commitment this year and know whether you are being patient in your relationship or simply dinning with a time waster. 

If you have been with him the whole of last year, you both are of age and ready and he has not said a word about taking the relationship to the next level, please open your mouth and ask him what he wants from you. This is in no way a desperate move for you as a lady but way for you to get clarity of purpose on your decision with the guy in question. Remember a closed mouth is a closed destiny 🤐😓😰

You may be thinking of marriage while we only wanted to have fun and date you indefinitely until he is ready to find and move on with someone else seriously because mind you these time wasters have no iota of respect for anything that matters to your life especially the issue of permanent commitment.

When a man sees what he needs, he moves with the speed of light to secure it before another does. That is just the innate nature of men and that's why they are akin to primeval hunters.

If after 12 months of being together and he is still not convinced, that does not make him a bad person neither does it mean that you are a bad person. 

That a square peg did not fit into a round hole does not mean that the square peg is bad. Take it to a square hole and see it match perfectly. Spread the tentacles of your search once again because you just might be wasting precious time waiting alone for a docked ship to set sail again.

If Mr. A did not find value in you, you may find Mr. B may say, where have you been all these while that I have been searching? Because he's your long awaited Mr. Right💕.

If it is not working, staying in it for extra more years will still not make it work. Leave emotions/sentiments aside and be truthful to yourself.

In all, remain intentional/realistic.

Be Deliberate 

Be You

May the love you seek find you whole. 

So tell me, how long did your husband date you before marriage? 

You May be helping someone this year to liberate themselves from time wasters so please share this post. 

✍️ (c) Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks.

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