Staying True To One's Self

How can you have your wedding without "professional makeup" or without breaking the bank?

How can you write this exam without "any form of assistance"?

How can you get married without "testing the car you want to buy first"?

How can you graduate from the university without ever tasting alcohol, drugs or going clubbing?

These and many more are the unending voices in our heads compelling us to conform to certain so called societal norms that we are often better off without especially in the long run.

I recently had a heart -to-heart with my 5-year old where he seriously queried and disapproved of my wedding picture hanging on the wall of the sitting room for the singular reason that I put on so much facial make up in that picture and so in his eyes I am no longer the person in the picture as I look like someone else, whereas he knows that mummy (which is me) wears little or no facial makeup on most days.

2023 in practical implementation

Happy Sunday guys!

For those who are still holidaying, the year has started in earnest. Imagine 15+ days off the calendar already. What did you say is your new year resolution and goal again?... You may need to look yourself in the mirror and repeat that aloud to yourself again with a more serious tone.

As for me this my omugwo period is one of sober reflection and re-strategizing especially regarding my being very intentional about creating a passive income that will with time grow to become more steady than my 9 - 5.

Happy New Year and Welcome to 2023

Thank you for an awesome 2022, and we welcome you to a new year of endless meaningful possibilities.

Today, as we celebrate the new year, we remember your unwavering support as we simplify payments.

We know that we exist because you exist, and we will always work daily to earn your trust.

The New Year offers the promise of a new start and an opportunity to reinvent ourselves as much as we need to and be better.

We’ll take this opportunity to continue embracing a winning mindset, and we invite you on this journey through 2023.

Welcome to 2023!

This is to us having an awesome year together

From Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks Blog Team 🧡

Every Married Woman Needs To Hear This!!!

Dear married but unhappy and unfulfilled, I have come to give you unsolicited advice 🥴

I want to address the women in particular as usual. 

You see ehn, marriage is beautiful but you can be in it and feel so sad, left out, and bitter if you don't look out for yourself. 

How can you do that?

📌 Self-Love. This means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

Self-love gives you the courage to be assertive, make decisions, and set boundaries in your lives.

Here are some of the benefits of self-love: Increased self-esteem. Self-love is bound up with self-esteem – which is vital for good mental health.

So please, love yourself so much. Be selfish. Put yourself first before anyone. If you don't, you won't even have any love to give. 

My children once asked me who I love the most in the family and I responded "ME". I love myself more than all of you.

📌 Self-Care. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-care nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.

Buy that hair, bag, shoes, or anything you love to own and can afford without looking back. Don't be stingy with yourself. Some women dedicate so much to their children and spouse while they look haggard. 

Clean up yourself. Your skin, your looks, your smell, and your hair should be in order and you don't have to break the banks to get that done.

ONE PERSON YOU MUST NEVER MEET IN YOUR LIFE.

BY REV FUNKE FELIX ADEJUMO.

There is one person you must never meet in your life, you can meet other people but you must never meet that one person and that person is the person you should have become.

I read in a book sometime ago, that many years ago, Billy Graham was preaching and he is one of the most holiest man in America, but while he was preaching those days, he will be missing his note, if he wants to call Genesis, he will call the book of Daniel, his wife noticed this so after he was done preaching, the wife told him that he was missing lines while he was preaching and the man replied and told her that he suddenly noticed a lady in the audience and that was the lady that refused to marry him because she said I didn't have a future, so immediately the wife stood up and walked straight to the lady, she greeted the lady and said "Thank you for saying no to my husband, because if you didn't say no, I won't be enjoying what am enjoying right now..

The happiest woman alive

The happiest women* today are not the married ones, neither are they the single ones.

They ain't even those with the most  expensive apparels or gadgets.

They're not the ones with great income or influential backgrounds.

They are not the ones with many degrees bagged from prestigious institutions both locally and Internationally.

The happiest women are the ones who have discovered themselves and are living their lives in total alignment to their purpose and self discovery. 

This set of women don't get bullied or cheaply blackmailed because they don't need your validation. 

They made a deliberate choice to love themselves despite what comes their way. They are not greedy but satisfied and contented with what they can make happen. 

Women who don't play the blame game nor act the victim playlet.

 Their self-esteem is intact with a good sense of self worth. You can't stop them because  they have moved past mediocrity and intimidation. They are not sentimental freaks because they have conquered their anger, fears and bitterness.  These are women who have chosen to leave their past behind and take on the future like the warriors they are

No! you can't threaten them with status because they realized on time, that personal achievement needs no "Title" to be attained!

They realized that they are responsible for their own happiness. 

They are women who have chosen to be defined by virtue rather than status

They DON'T drag POSITIONS with men either because they know that a woman was not born to do what a man can do but she was created to do WHAT A MAN CANNOT DO!

World Cup Final and my take on it.

 

🇫🇷 | Kylian Mbappe's father in 2018: “At first, I wanted my son to play for Cameroon but, someone at the Cameroon Football Federation charged a sum of money that I didn’t have to make him play. The French didn’t charge anything.”

◾Can you now see how terrible corruption has affected Africa! Imagine all the stars African nations would have had if they didn't ask players to bring money before selecting them to play. I am ashamed!

◾Don't ever blame any player of African origin for playing for and European nation. Embolo was asked for bribe but he didn't have money so he went to play for Switzerland and then he scored against Cameroon and Africans came out to curse him! For refusing to pay bribe!

An Interesting Read on Pregnancy and Motherhood

Did You Know???

That when pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mothers bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal-maternal microchimerism”.⁠

For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mothers tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.

Even if a pregnancy doesn't go to full term or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream. Research has shown that if a mother's heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialize in mending the heart.

The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.

Don't Judge a Situation You Haven't Passed Through

❤️Single ladies should not judge and set standards for married women till they get married because they may become everything they once criticized

❤️I cannot fight a side chick. If I discover my husband cheats on me, I will just leave the house. My dear , Wait till you get there.

❤️How can a married woman look so unkept. Once I marry, I will be looking so beautiful for my husband. My dear wait till you get there 

❤️How can a married woman deny her man s*x ? When I marry I will be having fun with my husband 24 hours. My dear wait till you get there 

Women Please Stop Shaming CS Mothers

 

CS may be difficult, very expensive and sometimes have prolonged healing process and time that can last as much as weeks from all the vaccines administered during the process and so on but one thing is sure, it is a divine life saver for both child and mother especially in cases of difficult or impossible vaginal delivery. 

Don't be foolish and play with your life and that of an innocent baby (ies) that you have suffered for nine whole months to carry with high expectations just because the only Scripture you know off heart and your own misconstrued interpretation of Hebrew women is vaginal delivery only. The statistics of foolish women is no longer funny so refuse to join them.

You the naive family, friend or confused Man of God who is teaching this erroneous doctrine of heresy concerning Hebrew women and leading mothers and babies to an early avoidable grave please in the name of Jesus that you claim to teach this satanic teaching STOP IT IN JESUS NAME. AMEN and please just stop mocking a CS mother. You are not God neither are you better than her because you had a vaginal delivery. Nobody is perfect, tides can also turn anytime and our body make ups are not all the same. Most people don't have the willpower to withstand societal and family pressures.