18 Mistakes Most Wives Make.

Marriage is Hard Work!

By the time every marriage goes past the honey moon stage and life begins to take its toll on both spouse (including and not limited to the coming in/birth of children, the marriage goes through some level of stress. 

In this part of the world, the 'burden' of carrying the burden of building a marriage is usually saddled on the shoulder of the wife, and coupled with her business/career/studies vis a vis pregnancy and child birth, she may tend to forget what it means to be sweet, romantic, intentional about herself and so on.

Below I have listed 18 of such lethal mistakes we wives make that tends to spell doom for every marriage.

1. PROLONGING SILENT TREATMENT WHEN OFFENDED TO SHOW YOU ARE ANGRY

This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly

2. KILLING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF BEING A GOOD WIFE

 Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron

3. OVER REACTING OR GETTING EASILY ANGRY 

When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rather avoid the toxic environment you bring when over reacting. Secrecy opens up a door to many dangers in your marriage.

New Year Friends.... Welcome To The Greatest Year So Far... 2022

 

Have a sparkling New Year!
New adventures are around the corner. ...
Make way for 2022!
I said this 365 days ago, but happy New Year!
May the new year bless you with health, wealth, and happiness.
Out with the old, in with the new! ...
Here's hoping you make the most of 2022!
I'm super excited for this new year of exceeding Grace, favour, blessings, love, upliftment and the Good Life in Christ. We shall definitely have reasons to testify and celebrate. 

Special Edition: Sourcing For Additional Income Come 2022?? This Post is For You.

 

The world is generally operating on a tough financial economy and Nigeria is somehow worse off.  In order to beat the game and escape the heat of the current financial problems, smart individuals and budding entrepreneurs have began looking within for ways to create more wealth aside the normal 8 - 5 day time job. 

Eschew Envy, Embrace Contentment and Mind Your Business.

 

Have you ever heard of the saying that goes "minding your business is a full time business". Envy is an age long ill feeling of jealousy, covetousness, dissatisfaction, inadequacy, illicit ambitions and all its associated demons... And the father of them is unhealthy comparison and rivalry. 

The Bible teaches us in  Proverbs 14:30; "A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones." ... Proverbs 23:17-18; "Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear of the LORD.

Marriage Realities From An African Context

 

Marriages in Nigeria and most parts of Africa are sustained by women. You can argue this with your village deity. Women in general, put up with a lot of bullshit just to make their marriages work. From childhood they have been taught that a wise woman keeps her home. In order to keep their homes, they end up enduring a lot of ill-treatment. 

Find any woman who has been with a man for donkey years and ask her if she would love to marry that same man over again in her next life. Majority would say no. This brings us to the point that most marriages are endurance marriages not happy marriages. Unfortunately, we are told that marital success is about duration. 

A successful marriage isn't about duration but happiness. If two people spend five years together, happily and add immense value to each other; if they decide to break up without fighting about it, their marriage can be rated as successful. Spending eternity together in sorrow isn't the idea of success to me. It is what you do in the marriage that counts not how long. 

Thinking Of Getting Married Someday? Here Are Three Ways Being Happily Married Will Make You A Better Person..

Marriage especially when done right is not just a good thing but a full packaged blessing. Everyone desires to be married and be happy in it and it is more than important to us children of God because it was initiated and instituted by Our Heavenly Father from the creation of man to fulfill His divine plan for mankind and our earthly mandate. 

However, the very many challenges that besiege marriages of our generation, many of which ending up in divorce, makes it less and less attractive to so many people including members of the body of Christ. 

YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH

 

Good morning (or whatever time of the day it is in your region of residence). 

 The Lord put it as a burden in my heart to say this to someone here this morning so PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME AND NEVER STOP PROCLAIMING THESE WORDS OF SELF LOVE AND AFFIRMATION TO YOUR SELF.... 

I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH... 

The testimony of the Cross

 

Christians all over the world recently commemorated and celebrated the triumphant death and resurrection of Our Lord Jesus Christ which secured our Victory over Satan and all the entire arsenal of hell and their agents. Therefore we the Children of God,  called and consecrated for his kingdom purpose are living life from the victory of the Cross and it numerous testimonies that it brought to all who believe according to the Word of God in His scriptures tells us in John 3:16 which says that for God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life and 1 John 5:4 which says that everyone born of God overcomes the world, this is the victory that overcomes the world even our faith. So let's share a few of the major testimonies, the victory of the death of Christ Jesus brought for believers:

Every Single Guy Needs to Reads This

 

A must read for Every single guy 

"'"For all these guys that think by proposing to a lady you are awarding her ticket to heaven, you better have a rethink.

I was just on my own sipping my malt as a gentleman wey I be, I saw over 10 guys walked in, each in a white T-shirt with the inscription "And Charles Proposed To Dinma". Immediately they came into the public relaxation arena they took covers like assassin laying siege for their will-be victim. The way they positioned themselves at every corner of the drinking spot caught the attention of many who came for evening drink-out.

Meanwhile one of the guys (who I predicted as the chief actor) was putting on a jean trouser and a jean shirt with a color matched faze-cap. This dude sat at the centre of the arena unlike the minor actors who hid themselves at the corners. The guy man demanded a bottle of Heineken and was sipping it more gentler than myself. Checking his wrist watch at more frequent intervals he sighted the expected guests. At this point he adjusted on his seat, changed his posture and composure like that of an army General who is about to dish out orders.

Surging majestically into the arena were three damsels in whom the "construction" skills of God were made manifest. As they were drawing closer I could feel the rise in heartbeat of the husband to be. Immediately they got to the table where the guy man was seated, the gorgeously dressed face-capped dude in a slow motion stood up, removed his cap, unbuttoned his shirt, reached out to a small box containing an unknown content, kneeled down more slowly like a sinful man who accidentally finds himself in the presence of God. At once the minor actors ran out from their hiding corners and surrounded the proposer and the "proposee" singing a heart-touching song of congratulations. What a well rehearsed drama!

Dear God Am I in a Waiting Room... Alone

Have you ever been asked to wait and sit still for a really long time and you just didn't find it boring but annoying and like a total waste of time. More so when it becomes a spiritual exercise and experience and it feels like despite all of God's unfailing promises to us in His Word,  nothing seems to be happening for you in a very long time.  

Tell me about it and I will cry you a river myself because I have very well been there. 

WHEN WILL MY NAME GET CALLED?

WHEN WILL I GET MY BREAKTHROUGH?

WHEN WILL I FIND OUT WHAT IS NEXT IN MY LIFE?

WHEN WILL I GET MARRIED?

WHEN WILL I GET PREGNANT?

WHEN WILL MY MARRIAGE IMPROVE?!

Life just seems like this revolving .. BIG waiting room... Like a bottomless pit. 

Has it ever felt that way for you?

I can completely relate with you.