Ladies let's have some sense

Umunwanyi let me give you a piece of unsolicited advice especially my unmarried sisters. 

You see eh when a man comes for your hand in marriage plead with your parents particularly your fathers not to over-bill or extort from your suitor because you are going to pay for it bitterly one way or the other in the marriage. E get why o!

Put your quest and desire to have the most elaborate wedding particularly at the traditional marriage level stage at bay and hold your long throat. A na eru ihe eru. Don't try to jump the rope of life

Even if he can afford it alone, have some sense and self respect and cut down unnecessary expenses except you are ready to foot the bills of the unnecessary expenses yourself without involving the man. Dem no dey do competition for best wedding. The world doesn't care, all the world cares about is to help you waste the largesse you have prepared for us.

Put yourself in the mindset of the man especially if he is not spiritually grounded, there is no way he will spend that much money to marry you and not see you as one of his acquisitions.

Did you guys know that there are men who value their toys (cars and electronic gadgets) more than they value their wives who is a human being. That is why he won't waste time to abuse you in any manner he deems fit at any given time.

If only some of you wives could be privileged to read the minds of your so called husbands as to how they value you, most of you will weep blood. That is why your voices and opinions never count to your husbands and they even consider it an insult to them because you are no better than one other of his acquired home furnitures.

I'm not saying fight your kinsmen but for goodness sake this is the 21st century and times are hard economically so please make them understand that all that nonsense billing has no benefit especially to you their daughter except they are selling you off into modern day slavery which is what most wives are to their husbands... Glorified house maids

When I was about to get married and my uncles said no this no that, they didn't know that I was the happiest person because my husband and I had more money to save which we later utilized for our first investment as a couple immediately after our wedding. 

Then after the wedding, still beg your immediate family to respect themselves small with their demands even if their new in-law is a money magnet. E get why too.

And then you the new bride you get your ass off your lazy entitlement chair and start to hustle no matter how small so that your respect can be full and all round (you want his family to respect you as well).

Let me stop here for now. But if you didn't take anything home from here remember that most husbands view their wives as a mere acquisition and that is why your opinion is treated harshly with abuse because it is considered as a direct unwelcomed challenge to his unquestionable authority.

Even if you are married to a man because of his monetary wealth and nothing more, try to pretend about it at the beginning in other to gain your respect and then you'd realize with time that there's more to him and the whole concept of marriage than a man's money. Just saying 😔

Business Nuggets For Beginners 101

I came to the realization a few years ago that a paid job whether in the Government’s civil service or in the private sector and no matter how lucrative, big or luxurious the said job might be that working for someone else is not the key to financial freedom which is the innate desire of most adults especially in these harsh economic times.

So I began thinking outside the box and outside my comfort zone. If you have ever been insulted, ridiculed and looked down on because you were broke and financially incapable then by family mainly and friends, you’d understand my pain. And that pain became my kick starter that got me thinking:- What can I do to add to my monthly income? What can I start doing that will earn me a steady second income stream without affecting my day job? 

Due to the fact that I’ve always been a social media dweller, I came online to find my answer. But because I was clueless and without proper mentorship, I began to dabble into a whole lot of things, spending money in a lot of things (or legitimate online businesses) trying to figure out what works but forgetting to figure out that what works for me would be the main deal breaker. 

So I tried my hands on a whole lot of things. You just name it: Network Marketing (on the Longrich Bioscience Business Platform), Affiliate Marketing (on the Digiaffnet Affiliate Marketing Platform), Blogging (I started and built my own blogging site on blogger) and so on.

Some of these investments are still in view and running but I have come to the realization that I am now a jack of all trades but master of none because none is yielding the desired results financially yet and it is all my fault.

Yes, I have to take full responsibility for the success and failure of my life and whatever venture I get involved with. Besides, I have also learned albeit the very hard way that there were some very vital/foundational elements of business that I unknowingly skipped out of both my knowledge base and implementation. Let me share a few of them for us to learn:

Before ever you put in your capital to start any sort of business whether online or offline, make sure you have spent more of that amount of money investing in yourself acquiring as much skill to sharpen the talent and interest in the new area of business, building your knows base, getting meaningful lifetime mentorship. Infact anything that will improve you and your mind first whether or not it puts money into your pocket immediately please and please make sure you acquire such knowledge and mentorship well. You will thank yourself later on.

Similar to the above, get close to mentors that have broken resounding records worthy of emulation in the desired area of business and never let them go.

Copy from your mentors, especially what and what they did wrong in their early business lives, then the lessons they learnt and how they implemented same that later gave birth to the results that is so manifestly evident in them.

Keep on learning, unlearning and relearning as you prepare to start off your own.

Carefully and calculatedly chart your own unique course for originality and possibly greater results than your mentors. They themselves would be proud of whom their wealth of knowledge and experience has produced.

If it is business you ventured into and you really want to succeed and see results, money and wealth grow fast from it YOU MUST AS A NECESSITY MASTER THE ART OF SELLING AND MARKETING YOUR PRODUCTS. It is one thing to have awesome products and services under your sleeves, and it is another thing to really know how to bring them out shamelessly and market them with irresistible offers to your target customers.

For emphasis sake, I repeat: Don’t just know how to sell, become a master at it with unbeatable top notch marketing skills that can stand the test of time.

If it is sweet wealth and automated income as you sleep that is your goal then SELLING AND MARKETING IS THE ONLY ROUTE.

Don’t make the mistake that I made, don’t dabble into so many things at once when you are still in the preparatory phase of going into a business because all of them are sure to fail at once. Find just one high income skill you are keen about and bury your head there in research and acquiring every knowledge there is to learn there.

 Whenever you decide to expand your business horizons and diversify the business into other branches, always go for similar or complimentary business that will still keep you focused on the main or first business venture and can comfortably go with the main business and more importantly, one that won’t necessarily require you learning new marketing or selling skills that are entirely different from what have already mastered. Just simplify your business atmosphere as you aim for greater heights.

From the above, I do sincerely hope that someone out there has been blessed with new insights from these evergreen blueprints that I just mentioned. 

As for me, as the Holy Spirit gave me these revelations, I began to see that the online businesses I ventured into were quite complimentary in nature yes but they were very premature of me as I was initially naïve and unprepared to handle any one.

So now I am on course, I am back on track. I’ve diversified and simplified my business goals, atmosphere and strategies. I’m going to pick one of them for now ( which could mean from now till the next eighteen months), focus on it with all my energy and my heart, then when I have started recording tremendous growth from it, I can now diversify and pick up the others one at a time and at my own pace.

So you my dear friend, what are your plans for 2023 again, how do you intend achieving them and have you gained value from this post. 

If yes please share and let me know. You will be helping somebody’s life as well. 

Thank you so much for your time and see you at the top.

From your Chiamaka Hephzibah Anietoh

Your Legalpreneur.

The circle of life

No matter how long it lives, the Greatest Lion will eventually die miserably. That's the world.

At their Peak, they rule, chase other animals, catch, devour, gulp and leave their crumbs for hyenas. But age comes fast.

The old Lion can't hunt, can't kill or defend itself. It roams and roars until it runs out of luck. It will be cornered by the hyenas, nibbled at and eaten alive by them. They won't even let it die before it is dismembered.

Life is short. Power is ephemeral. Physical beauty is short-lived, I have seen it in lions. I have seen it in old people. Everyone who lives long enough will become weak and very vulnerable at some point.

Therefore, let us be humble. Help the sick, the weak, the vulnerable and most importantly never forget that we will leave the stage one day.

Words on Marble

 ***WORDS OF ELDERS***

1. “Beware of the naked person who offers you clothes! Camouflaged murderers

2. “When one’s goat get missing, the aroma of a neighbor’s soup get suspicious”. 🤐

3. “The future belongs to the Risk takers, Not the Comfort seekers!"🤔

4. “A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple!"👫

5. “The first person you think of in the morning, or last person you think of at night, is either the cause of your happiness or your pain!"😕

6. “Be careful who you trust! Salt and Sugar are both white!"🍙🍚

7. “Kindness is like butter, it works best when you spread it around!"😉

8. “The walls don’t only have ears, they now see!"👀👀

9. “Sometimes, you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you!"😁

Staying True To One's Self

How can you have your wedding without "professional makeup" or without breaking the bank?

How can you write this exam without "any form of assistance"?

How can you get married without "testing the car you want to buy first"?

How can you graduate from the university without ever tasting alcohol, drugs or going clubbing?

These and many more are the unending voices in our heads compelling us to conform to certain so called societal norms that we are often better off without especially in the long run.

I recently had a heart -to-heart with my 5-year old where he seriously queried and disapproved of my wedding picture hanging on the wall of the sitting room for the singular reason that I put on so much facial make up in that picture and so in his eyes I am no longer the person in the picture as I look like someone else, whereas he knows that mummy (which is me) wears little or no facial makeup on most days.

2023 in practical implementation

Happy Sunday guys!

For those who are still holidaying, the year has started in earnest. Imagine 15+ days off the calendar already. What did you say is your new year resolution and goal again?... You may need to look yourself in the mirror and repeat that aloud to yourself again with a more serious tone.

As for me this my omugwo period is one of sober reflection and re-strategizing especially regarding my being very intentional about creating a passive income that will with time grow to become more steady than my 9 - 5.

Happy New Year and Welcome to 2023

Thank you for an awesome 2022, and we welcome you to a new year of endless meaningful possibilities.

Today, as we celebrate the new year, we remember your unwavering support as we simplify payments.

We know that we exist because you exist, and we will always work daily to earn your trust.

The New Year offers the promise of a new start and an opportunity to reinvent ourselves as much as we need to and be better.

We’ll take this opportunity to continue embracing a winning mindset, and we invite you on this journey through 2023.

Welcome to 2023!

This is to us having an awesome year together

From Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks Blog Team 🧡

Every Married Woman Needs To Hear This!!!

Dear married but unhappy and unfulfilled, I have come to give you unsolicited advice 🥴

I want to address the women in particular as usual. 

You see ehn, marriage is beautiful but you can be in it and feel so sad, left out, and bitter if you don't look out for yourself. 

How can you do that?

📌 Self-Love. This means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

Self-love gives you the courage to be assertive, make decisions, and set boundaries in your lives.

Here are some of the benefits of self-love: Increased self-esteem. Self-love is bound up with self-esteem – which is vital for good mental health.

So please, love yourself so much. Be selfish. Put yourself first before anyone. If you don't, you won't even have any love to give. 

My children once asked me who I love the most in the family and I responded "ME". I love myself more than all of you.

📌 Self-Care. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-care nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.

Buy that hair, bag, shoes, or anything you love to own and can afford without looking back. Don't be stingy with yourself. Some women dedicate so much to their children and spouse while they look haggard. 

Clean up yourself. Your skin, your looks, your smell, and your hair should be in order and you don't have to break the banks to get that done.

ONE PERSON YOU MUST NEVER MEET IN YOUR LIFE.

BY REV FUNKE FELIX ADEJUMO.

There is one person you must never meet in your life, you can meet other people but you must never meet that one person and that person is the person you should have become.

I read in a book sometime ago, that many years ago, Billy Graham was preaching and he is one of the most holiest man in America, but while he was preaching those days, he will be missing his note, if he wants to call Genesis, he will call the book of Daniel, his wife noticed this so after he was done preaching, the wife told him that he was missing lines while he was preaching and the man replied and told her that he suddenly noticed a lady in the audience and that was the lady that refused to marry him because she said I didn't have a future, so immediately the wife stood up and walked straight to the lady, she greeted the lady and said "Thank you for saying no to my husband, because if you didn't say no, I won't be enjoying what am enjoying right now..

The happiest woman alive

The happiest women* today are not the married ones, neither are they the single ones.

They ain't even those with the most  expensive apparels or gadgets.

They're not the ones with great income or influential backgrounds.

They are not the ones with many degrees bagged from prestigious institutions both locally and Internationally.

The happiest women are the ones who have discovered themselves and are living their lives in total alignment to their purpose and self discovery. 

This set of women don't get bullied or cheaply blackmailed because they don't need your validation. 

They made a deliberate choice to love themselves despite what comes their way. They are not greedy but satisfied and contented with what they can make happen. 

Women who don't play the blame game nor act the victim playlet.

 Their self-esteem is intact with a good sense of self worth. You can't stop them because  they have moved past mediocrity and intimidation. They are not sentimental freaks because they have conquered their anger, fears and bitterness.  These are women who have chosen to leave their past behind and take on the future like the warriors they are

No! you can't threaten them with status because they realized on time, that personal achievement needs no "Title" to be attained!

They realized that they are responsible for their own happiness. 

They are women who have chosen to be defined by virtue rather than status

They DON'T drag POSITIONS with men either because they know that a woman was not born to do what a man can do but she was created to do WHAT A MAN CANNOT DO!