The Ups and Downs of Having a New Baby For a New Couple

Having a baby changes everything. One minute you're living your best life, going out with friends, staying up late, and the next you're covered in spit-up, running on 2 hours of sleep, and your social life is pretty much non-existent. But you know what? It's all worth it.

The first few weeks after bringing home a newborn are a total whirlwind. You're running on pure adrenaline and caffeine, trying to figure out this whole parenting thing. Simple tasks like showering or eating a meal become major accomplishments. And forget about keeping a clean house - laundry and dishes pile up while you're busy staring at your baby's perfect little face.

But slowly, you start to find your groove. The sleepless nights get a little better, the crying fits become fewer and farther between. You learn your baby's cues and how to soothe them. And you realize that all the hard stuff is so worth it when your little one gives you that first big, gummy smile. Suddenly, your heart is so full it feels like it might burst.

Sure, life is more complicated now. Date nights require planning, and trips to the grocery store are a military operation. But the love you feel for this tiny human is unlike anything you've ever experienced. They become the center of your world, and you wouldn't have it any other way.

Having a baby is a total game-changer for couples. Your life gets turned upside down in the best way possible. Suddenly, it's not just about you and your partner anymore - there's this tiny human who is totally dependent on you.

The first few months are a whirlwind of feedings, diaper changes, and zero sleep. You're running on fumes, but the love you feel for this little person makes it all worth it. Watching them grow and reach those important milestones is the most rewarding thing ever.

Of course, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. There are definitely challenges that come with becoming parents. Learning to balance your relationship, work, and family life takes some serious adjusting. But you find a way to make it work because your top priority is giving your child the best life possible.

At the end of the day, having a baby brings couples closer together in a way you can't even imagine until you experience it. It's a wild ride, but one that fills your heart to the brim.

MAJOR HEALTH BENEFITS OF THE BITTER LEAF PLANT.

 

- Relieves Stomach Ulcers:

Bitter leaf has strong anti oxidants that are good for protecting the walls of the stomach. That’s why bitter leaf can be used to treat stomach ulcers. 

- Treats Malaria:

Bitter leaf has abundant amount of quinine in it. That is a natural anti malarial drug. 

- Cures Fungal Infections:

Bitter leaf has strong anti fungal properties. You can apply its paste on the skin infections to treat your fungal infections.

- Treats Skin Conditions:

Bitter leaf paste can treat your skin problems like eczema, psoriasis, ringworms etc. 

- Treats Typhoid Fever:

The flavonoids present in bitter lead are strong antioxidants and are helpful in treating fever. 

Self-Care For The "W. O. M. A. N." 101

Sister, please take good care of yourself! 

To all of us warrior women balancing the triathlon of motherhood, careers, and domestic jungles once again I say the Lord is our strength but also remember, you didn’t say “I do” to lose very yourself in the laundry pile or the corporate ladder. The real person who dazzled your partner into commiting to marriage with you is that he loved you for *you*—not just for your potential as a supermom or as a business guru. 

Yes, kids come with all their bundles of joy and truckload of responsibilities, bodies changes happen, exhaustion sets in, and all sorts of workloads could that squash a small elephant. But hey, it is paramount not sacrifice *you* on the altar of the endless to-dos!

It’s understandable to shift priorities, but let’s not vanish ourselves in the process. As much as possible, carve out a sanctuary in time for yourself. Whether it's a steamy bubble bath longer than your toddler's attention span or a morning jog where the only thing you're chasing is your peace of mind, keep that rendezvous with yourself sacred. Else, if you don’t, the person by your side—who promised to be there through thick and thin—might start wondering where the woman he fell in love with has vanished to. 

THE EVERYDAY "W. O. M. A. N."

Dear Woman:

● changes her name

● changes her lifestyle and sometimes identity.

● changes her home.

● leaves her family.

● moves in with you.

● builds a home with you.

● gets pregnant for you, most times more than twice and the pregnancy process changes her body forever.

● she gains weight

● almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pain of childbirth.

● even the children she delivers bear your name...

A Mother's Untold Story

When a woman becomes prégnant, which is a difficult stage of a woman's life yet she had this confidence that after prégnancy she will be free and relieved.

After giving birth, nursing her little baby wasn't an easy job. 

She so much looked forward to getting past that stage as a bréástféeding Mom

The sleepless nights, anxiety, body pain and general stress was much to deal with but she said again "once my baby starts crawling and  moving around I will be free"

Finally, the baby starts walking and moving about

She heaved a a sigh of relief thinking it will be far easier but she was wrong again

Watching and monitoring the kids so they won't swallow pin or even hürt their selves while moving about becomes the job of the day

Toddler stage arrives and the shouting progressed

"Don't touch that

"Don't go there

"Don't put that in your mouth

"Don't climb

"Stop running around before you fall

"I will spank you if you tear that book, drop it back 

And then he tears the book and start giggling happily

You look at him unknowing what to do

You gather up the pieces of the mess and throw away.

They never stop making mess and you never stop cleaning.

You become worried when they're off to school and can't wait for them to be home and once they're home you can't stop shouting and threatening

Even your threats are taken for granted and when you spank them finally you will still beg them to stop crying.

Does any of this parenting stage gets any easier? You keep asking but the answer is not quite.

Interestingly she may have to have to repeat this process or cycle for as many times as she visits the delivery room.

No, it doesn't because even when they are grown and off to the university or even married their safety and good connection becomes another prayer points.

Just do your best and let God take care of the rest.

It doesn't get easier but it does gets better and sweeter ❤❤️❤️ 

A Peep Leak into the Life of an African Mother Like Me 🤱

Today I was privileged to record a short clips of how my kids and I roll everyday they come back home from school. Their dramas and tantrums and everything in between 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂.

HERE ARE SOME KITCHEN TIPS THAT MIGHT HELP YOU.

HERE ARE SOME KITCHEN TIPS THAT MIGHT HELP YOU. 

I guess you never know most of them 🤷

(1) If you don't want your seasoning cubes to get soft and start bringing out water....add garri to the container where you put your seasoning cubes. It will remain strong and fresh. 

(2) Don't throw away your left over pounded yam. Dry it and crush it. After its dried then use it to eat beans....its a great taste.

(3) if your pot of soup sour or changes taste. Put 2-3 pieces of charcoal in it and warm very well....you will recover the delicious taste of it again.

If your shoe is smelly....add piece of charcoal, it will absorb the smell.